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Didn’t think I’d be writing today, Christmas Day. However, musings come unbidden and when the writing bug hits, I have to write!

I was thinking about Christmases past and feeling very grateful that, even with the recession going on, my family and I are together, live in a lovely home, and are able to put food on the table. This wasn’t always the case in my family of origin.

People don’t necessarily think of going through bankruptcy as trauma.  But, not understanding U.S. laws, my parents didn’t even know they could file for bankruptcy and get some help. They struggled, scared and alone. Read the rest of this entry »


Wishing everyone a wonderful holiday season. May you and your loved ones be well and happy.

Next post after Christmas weekend!


To continue the NICABM Conference, but this time, I want to talk about the people there – participants and speakers.

But, first, a little background! My decision to attend was part of a process that started even before I listened to the teleseminars. It  started when I read Belleruth Naparstek’s book, Invisible Heroes, where she stated that research showed the success of using alternative methods to heal trauma survivors.

I realized that I had used qigong 25 years ago to successfully heal survivors of  post-traumatic stress disorder (ptsd) derived from child sexual abuse. Following this realization, I intuitively knew that I am to return to working with survivors of trauma, again using qigong.

I had come full circle.

I knew that the conference would put me in touch with experts in the field of trauma. My goal was not only to learn about the latest treatments from these experts, it was also to network and share my dream with other practitioners.

So, I launched a blog on this subject the Sunday before I got on the plane. The 1,000 business cards I ordered had arrived.

I was ready! Read the rest of this entry »

This conference is exactly what the doctor ordered!

The 21st International Psychology of Health, Immunity & Disease Conference was held at Hilton Head Island, South Carolina and sponsored by The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM).

Who wouldn’t want to look out the window and see the pounding waves rushing to the shore?

Before I go into more detail, in later posts, about all the latest in the field of holistic health, I am going to talk about how this conference provided a safe environment for me.

A reminder that safety is key for anyone who has been traumatized. The very act of trauma takes away all the things that we thought would keep us safe. And, healing will not occur without the survivor feeling safe.

The choice of location was perfect. Miles of beach was located on one side of the Marriott. On the other was miles of green forest with hiking trails. The hotel was 4 star, the service excellent, the food delicate.  And, when I didn’t want to go outside, there was the sauna, the heated indoor pool, and let’s not forget the hot tub.

Oh, yes, let’s not forget that I was at a conference!

What I observed right off was how Ruth M. Buczynski, PhD, President of NICABM and a licensed psychologist set up a safe space for 600-700 people to come together to learn, to teach, to share, to nurture and be nurtured. Read the rest of this entry »

I had already been through years of my own therapy as well as therapy training. I had already worked through issues of physical and emotional abuse, the trauma of escaping from Communist China, racism, cancer, and two respiratory illness in which I nearly died.

One more thing was almost more than I could bear!

Yet, I forced myself to be brutally honest. I had to admit that something was still missing in my life. Here I was a therapist, encouraging my clients to be true to themselves. And, I so didn’t want to know.

The irony of this was not lost on me!

I finally screwed up my courage and made that fateful call to my clinical supervisor.

I was fortunate to have a supervisor that had also been my therapist for 20 years.  She was also a certified hypnotherapist. I asked her to take me into a hypnotic trance to see what I remembered.

To my horror, I remembered everything! I was only 4 years old. Read the rest of this entry »

Child sexual abuse, or incest, is one of the most insidious types of violence perpetrated on innocent children:

  • 1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18. (96)
  • 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18. (96)
  • 1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet. (30, 87)
  • Nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under. (76)
  • An estimated 39 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse exist in America today.

While we are teaching children to be wary of strangers, no one wants to believe that many are abused by family members and friends:

  • 30-40% of victims are abused by a family member. (2, 44, 76)
  • Another 50% are abused by someone outside of the family whom they know and trust.
  • Approximately 40% are abused by older or larger children whom they know. (1, 44)
  • Therefore, only 10% are abused by strangers.

More shocking, children are violated when young:

  • The median age for reported abuse is 9 years old. (64)
  • More than 20% of children are sexually abused before the age of 8. (76)
  • Nearly 50% of all victims of forcible sodomy, sexual assault with an object, and forcible fondling are children under 12. (74, 76)

(Above statistics in

Sometimes, so young that they have no way to defend themselves, let alone understand what is happening to them.

Sometimes, so young that they have no memory of  it.  Yet, abuse affects everything in their life – sex, relationships, work, physical and mental health – and they don’t know why!

This is what happened to me. I blocked out all memory of this abuse.  While it is personal, my story starts with my professional life. Read the rest of this entry »

Yes, I’m back in L.A. I know I am because I looked out my window and saw the Hollywood Sign!

The NICABM Conference was spectacular, and I have lots to write.

I’m getting all my notes straightened out, not to mention my mind. I am overwhelmed with information and trying to decide what to write first.

So much information to get to you all!

That is, after I take care of this jet lag!

Tune in at the end of the week for more news.

Harsh words can kill your soul! It killed mine!

The rhyme, “Sticks and stones may break my bones,but words will never hurt me” is a boldface lie!

It also discounts the impact of emotional abuse, minimizing its harmful effects on the victim.

My dear friend and cohort, Adele,  sent me this video link about emotional abuse perpetrated verbally.  It’s a poignant depiction of how words can destroy a victim, even if the latter is never beaten.

The scars are hidden, yet they exist!

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I will be attending this conference at Hilton Head Island, sponsored by The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM).

This is my first time at this conference, and I am so excited! I’ve also never been to Hilton Head Island, so will take a little time after the conference to see the island and, you guessed it, do some holiday shopping.

Ruth Buczynski, Director of NICABM and her staff are doing an excellent job in keeping us updated on conference materials, registration, etc. Most of all, after listening to the free teleseminars on health and alternative healing, I knew I had to participate.

Thank you, Ruth! Read the rest of this entry »

Qigong saved my life!

This self-healing complementary modality built up my immune system following my bout with cancer. After fifteen years, I am still cancer free.

Aside from cancer, qigong has also helped me  heal from other traumatic experiences.  My story and how I healed will be in another post. First, I want to give you a foundation for understanding qigong.

This article, therefore, will provide an overview of the following:

  • Definition of qigong
  • Historical and cultural context
  • General benefits

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